Once considered a realm inhabited only by the socially awkward, online dating is now just another tool in the toolbox, no matter whether you’re looking for a hook-up or your soulmate.....To explore this topic, I pulled aside two individuals who I knew were hunting for a long-term relationship using online dating websites, and asked them about their experiences with the services.Long before "White Privilege" was a Macklemore song, it was (and continues to be) a social reality with tendrils extending into virtually all facets of our society.Some of its manifestations are a matter of life and death; others are subtle annoyances known as "microaggressions" which can build up and contribute to a general sense of not feeling safe or comfortable in a world that was never designed with us in mind.If finding ~love~ is one of your 2016 resolutions, statistically speaking, now's the time to give that dating app a shot. If you absolutely hate it, you can always delete the app and forget it ever happened.I was afraid to admit to the world that I didn’t want to be single, that I was taking matters into my own hands to try and meet someone.
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.As though….alright alright, snarkyness=squelched.) No, I always respond politely when people ask about online dating because I know that the question is well-intended. And I even have a few friends who married their “matches”…and I think should totally become those cute couples on the commercials. I EHarmony-ed twice right out of college after moving to a new city, I hopped on and off Match a few times over the years, and I have kept an eye on (but never signed up for) all of the zillion other online dating sites that have popped up since.And I agree that it’s a reasonable question, since online dating is quite the modern marvel of the last decade. There were at least a handful of decent dates come out of my time on those sites.As good as it might feel for those with white privilege to pretend we live in a "post-racial" society, one has only to give most dating sites the most cursory of glances to shut down this notion altogether. However, have you ever taken an Implicit Association Test for racial bias? You might find the results surprising.) One response to the micro-aggressions experienced on swipe-to-reject dating apps is the proliferation of racially-specific apps like Black People Meet, Asian People Meet, Latino People Meet, Native American Dating (and just to keep things driven-snow-pure, Where White People Meet).